Three (3) Aspects of a Lover - Part 1

Keep your Lover. Make Love Stay.

"Man, by Nature, is Poligamous." - I can't remember how many times I have read or heard this statement. Is it really true? Or is it just a mere stereotyping? I do not want to disagree but I want to clear it out. In every statement, there would always be facts. But this does not disregard a fact that in every statement, there would be opinions as well.

----->Most of the old saying were based on stories that happened in real life. And if these stories are true-to-life, that means that these statement was based on events that were experienced by some or most people. Ergo, if this was based on experiences, then this statement is personal to the one who experienced it, making it an opinion of the person who has been in that situation.

----->Man, by Nature, is Polygamous. This is true! I would agree one hundred percent. But if you look at this statement, Man by it's meaning is not only pertaining to male. Man is also used to address humans, both male and female, in general. If you would jump to conclusions that this statement pertains to guys, then you are looking at it in a shallow, unfair, and stereotypical way. But even if we consider the thought that this pertains to guys, still it does not say "ALL Men, by Nature, is Polygamous". It does not guarrantee that 100% of them are the same. If you believe that, then I should say you are judgemental.

----->I don't need you to answer me, but I want you to ask yourself, and I want you answer it objectively, fairly, and without any reference to you experiences, or to other's experiences. "Isn't it true that there are also females that commits polygamy", "Isn't it true that there are also a lot of guys who were hurt because of their female lovers having 3rd parties?" If you're on the side of women, I'm sure you will have an excuse. Probably, this what you're going to say: "Yes, but these are just few, isolated cases. More men commits polygamy, than women do." If your thoughts are similar to this, then again, you're shallow, unfair, and judgemental.

Why do I say that?

Let me answer you with another question. Is it really true that more men commits polygamy, than women do? Or is it only becuase more women talks about being cheated than men do? This is a reality you have to accept. If a guy was cheated, this is a direct attack on their ego. They would seldom let others know. Sometimes, they don't even let others know. Instead, they tell stories or do defense mechanism saying that they were the one's who found someone else, or that they fell out of Love. They know that it would make them appear as cheaters. But it's way better for them than to have people laughing at them because they were cheated.

----->On the other hand, girls or women are more emotional. Being that, they would normally want to voice out how hurt they are. They tell the stories and cry in front of their friends. They are more vocal about being victims of cheaters, than men would normally admit. And this is why you hear more stories of men as cheaters than women.

----->In my philosophy, Man (male and female) has the tendency to become like this. This is driven by the undeniable fact that man has no contentment. They tend to look for more. They don't easily get satisfied. This trait is what made man evolved. This is also the reason why more and more discoveries are made. More and more inventions are being discovered. Because man will never be contented on what he knows, what he can do, and what he have. Therefore, I would like to emphasize again than "man really in nature is Polygamous" but that is because I understand that this statement pertains to both male and female.

If this is the undeniable truth, does that mean that we just have to live with it?

WRONG! I strongly believe in one philosophy I have developed through my years of observation and experience. There are mainly three (3) aspects or needs that are needed to be satisfied to keep your lover loyal or faithful.

* Psychological / Mental Aspect/Needs

* Emotional Aspect/ Needs

* Physical Aspect/ Needs

----->If all these aspects are satisfied, it is assured that the person you love would stay with you. Miss any one of these and you would begin to feel the fire fading away. You or the person you love may start losing interest, and it would be the time that they, as humans, will look for something else, for something more. If a person can find everything that he needs in one place, that person will stay there for there is nothing else to look for.

These are all the needs that needs to be satisfied. How do these needs guarrantee loyalty? These is what the Part 2 of this article will be discussing. This would give you a better picture of what I am trying to say. If you are starting to disagree already, I am not forcing you to read further. But if you find sense in what I am talking about, please feel free to stay tuned.