Three (3) Aspects of a Lover - Part 1

Keep your Lover. Make Love Stay.

"Man, by Nature, is Poligamous." - I can't remember how many times I have read or heard this statement. Is it really true? Or is it just a mere stereotyping? I do not want to disagree but I want to clear it out. In every statement, there would always be facts. But this does not disregard a fact that in every statement, there would be opinions as well.

----->Most of the old saying were based on stories that happened in real life. And if these stories are true-to-life, that means that these statement was based on events that were experienced by some or most people. Ergo, if this was based on experiences, then this statement is personal to the one who experienced it, making it an opinion of the person who has been in that situation.

----->Man, by Nature, is Polygamous. This is true! I would agree one hundred percent. But if you look at this statement, Man by it's meaning is not only pertaining to male. Man is also used to address humans, both male and female, in general. If you would jump to conclusions that this statement pertains to guys, then you are looking at it in a shallow, unfair, and stereotypical way. But even if we consider the thought that this pertains to guys, still it does not say "ALL Men, by Nature, is Polygamous". It does not guarrantee that 100% of them are the same. If you believe that, then I should say you are judgemental.

----->I don't need you to answer me, but I want you to ask yourself, and I want you answer it objectively, fairly, and without any reference to you experiences, or to other's experiences. "Isn't it true that there are also females that commits polygamy", "Isn't it true that there are also a lot of guys who were hurt because of their female lovers having 3rd parties?" If you're on the side of women, I'm sure you will have an excuse. Probably, this what you're going to say: "Yes, but these are just few, isolated cases. More men commits polygamy, than women do." If your thoughts are similar to this, then again, you're shallow, unfair, and judgemental.

Why do I say that?

Let me answer you with another question. Is it really true that more men commits polygamy, than women do? Or is it only becuase more women talks about being cheated than men do? This is a reality you have to accept. If a guy was cheated, this is a direct attack on their ego. They would seldom let others know. Sometimes, they don't even let others know. Instead, they tell stories or do defense mechanism saying that they were the one's who found someone else, or that they fell out of Love. They know that it would make them appear as cheaters. But it's way better for them than to have people laughing at them because they were cheated.

----->On the other hand, girls or women are more emotional. Being that, they would normally want to voice out how hurt they are. They tell the stories and cry in front of their friends. They are more vocal about being victims of cheaters, than men would normally admit. And this is why you hear more stories of men as cheaters than women.

----->In my philosophy, Man (male and female) has the tendency to become like this. This is driven by the undeniable fact that man has no contentment. They tend to look for more. They don't easily get satisfied. This trait is what made man evolved. This is also the reason why more and more discoveries are made. More and more inventions are being discovered. Because man will never be contented on what he knows, what he can do, and what he have. Therefore, I would like to emphasize again than "man really in nature is Polygamous" but that is because I understand that this statement pertains to both male and female.

If this is the undeniable truth, does that mean that we just have to live with it?

WRONG! I strongly believe in one philosophy I have developed through my years of observation and experience. There are mainly three (3) aspects or needs that are needed to be satisfied to keep your lover loyal or faithful.

* Psychological / Mental Aspect/Needs

* Emotional Aspect/ Needs

* Physical Aspect/ Needs

----->If all these aspects are satisfied, it is assured that the person you love would stay with you. Miss any one of these and you would begin to feel the fire fading away. You or the person you love may start losing interest, and it would be the time that they, as humans, will look for something else, for something more. If a person can find everything that he needs in one place, that person will stay there for there is nothing else to look for.

These are all the needs that needs to be satisfied. How do these needs guarrantee loyalty? These is what the Part 2 of this article will be discussing. This would give you a better picture of what I am trying to say. If you are starting to disagree already, I am not forcing you to read further. But if you find sense in what I am talking about, please feel free to stay tuned.

Company Politics and Injustice

Sometimes, it's not really what is right or wrong that determines the type of justice a person can get. Most of the time, it's who you know that can make you right or wrong.

---> Politics is really one of the most stupid discoveries that man has made to date. It was and continues to ve rooted on man's thirst for power and the abuse of it. It's a disease that spreads easily across all races, and just like a virus, it eats up all your healthy cells, moving from one part to another, until it consumes all possible area.

----->In its social aspect, Politics is being in a position, having authority, "OR" knowing somebody who's in position and has authority. Man takes advantage of it for his own benefit: to get what he wants, what he needs.

----->We are all affected by it, in one way or another! In fact, you will see and smell..and feel politics not only in the government, but in all organizations. From the school where you study, up to the company you are currently working for. In my opinion, discrimination, unfairness, and INJUSTICE will only exist depending on how weak or strong is the existence of politics.

----->In organizations or companies, you would normally notice that there are certain privileges given to some people, but others do not receive any. Sometimes, you would just suddenly think that it's unfair. Most companies normally offers great opportunities for career advancements. But a lot of times, these opportunities will only be given to some people based on the following reasons:

• They have been with the company the longest time
• They are close friends with the boss
• They are close to people who are friends with the boss
• They are "suckers"

Admit it or not, people who make the decisions on who gets promoted or not normally give importance on who the person is, rather than what abilities the person has.

----->Another thing that you might notice is when people are given more privileges than the others. Most of their requests are getting approved in no time and with almost no conditions. But the others? It's either it doesn't get approved, approved with conditions, or approved after a long time of waiting. It's a shame to think about but wether we like it or not, It's Reality! And most of the time, the truth hurts.

----->Suddenly, some people cannot accept the inequality and voices it out. Who can they run to? The Management! You need to file formal complaints and present proofs, witnesses, and evidences. Normally, companies would have what they so call "HR" departments. Where in you always here them say "We're here to listen. We will protect you. We are your voice in the company." Yeah Right! But the fact behind it is that they only do it if you are "somebody" and not "nobody". And in reality, their department name really means Human Remorse. And in the end you would just really regret trusting them and having hope that they are there to help.

----->This is because definitely, as part of MANAGEMENT, they will protect each other! And they can use all their power to make it appear that you're the one who's mistaken in the first place. And once you started to feel like giving up, then it would be Human Retreat Department. And if, unfortunately, you can't believe this realization and you can't accept it, and you can't take it anymore, then most probably you need to go back to them. This time, as the
Human Resign Department. Wonderful! Now what happened to all your efforts? What did you get after all the battles you've fought for your rights, and for what you believe in? GONE! It will just serve as a learning experience. It will just be a lesson. Is it good? It depends on what lessons you've learned, right? So what is the lesson you've learned?

If you will fight for what you believe in, and the person involved is one of those "somebody", make sure that you are not "nobody". YOU HAVE TO KNOW HOW POLITICS WORKS! It's either you have a power, or you know somebody who has it.

Indeed, Politics exists everywhere. It brings out all the inequality in an organization, company, and even a country. Having it around, will assure us the INJUSTICE will always be present in our everyday life.